We can do whatever we want to do

When people ask for advice, they frequently use the word "should" -- as in What should I do?
But of course that's a really bad type of question. There are no shoulds. You can do whatever you want to do.


The first problem with asking for advice is that it's too easy. Anyone can do it. And since anyone can do it, everyone does do it.
People are always asking for advice, and they receive plenty of it in return. It's not difficult to give someone advice if all you have to do is give a brief answer to a question. But since it's such a common thing to do, the average quality level of the advice being given is typically quite low.
Many people, when giving advice, just toss out the first thing that pops into their minds. If you'd asked the same question on a different day, you might have received completely different answers, perhaps even 180 degrees different.
For example, if someone asks a successful blogger what the secret to blogging success is, one day that blogger might say it's great content. Another day the answer might be about networking with other bloggers. And next week it might have to do with leveraging social media.
Advice is state dependent, meaning that the answer you get depends on the other person's state of being at the time they provide the advice. Based on what they're dealing with mentally and emotionally, you're going to get different answers.
This is normal human behavior. It's not a problem per se. But it's something we need to acknowledge and accept.
Consequently, it's a bad idea to put too much weight in any one person's advice. Even if the person giving you advice is someone you deeply respect and admire, be aware that the advice is probably going to be fairly weak in terms of quality.

Seeking advice isn't such a great practice, at least not in the sense of inviting someone to tell you what to do. But seeking fresh, stimulating ideas is perfectly valid.
Instead of asking should-based questions, try this instead. Say to the other person, "Here's my situation. What would you do if you were me?"
Once they reply, then ask, "And why would you do that?" This will help you understand the reasoning behind the answer. See if you agree or disagree. Feel free to discuss it until you come to a place of mutual understanding, even if you don't agree with what they have to say.
Then ask them, "What else might you consider doing in my situation?" Feel free to ask this question a few times to elicit multiple options.
The key phrase is "if you were me" since this invites the other person to consider your perspective -- your particular values, talents, etc.Another benefit to the "if you were me" phrasing is that it doesn't put the other person on a pedestal. "Should" puts the other person on a pedestal. It gives away too much power, as if you're asking the other person to tell you what to do. But the "if you were me" version keeps you on equal footing in my opinion.
Challenge yourself to get better at coming up with your own answers. Exercise your creative muscles regularly. This may seem more difficult at first, especially if you've allowed those muscles to atrophy from neglect, but it's much more rewarding and productive in the long run. If you rely too much on other people to tell you what to do, you'll be playing the role of a dependent adolescent who hasn't yet reached adulthood. But if you get good at solving your own problems, you control your own destiny.
In other words, the best solutions are the ones you devise. You're a lot more capable than you think you are.